A pushover and her abnormally horny ‘boyfriend’.

One of my good friends that I used to work with in Mandala Spa is officially engaged! I was very surprised after finding out in Facebook! She had been very quiet about her relationship status and now that I think about it, I can’t recall ever seeing it as in “In a Relationship” mode!

I’m sure whatever her reasons were for keeping the whole relationship a secret, they weren’t meant to lead her friends on and I really don’t care for as long as Marisol Badanoy is happy and will finally tie the knot with the man of her dreams! She truly deserves it. I’m very happy for you Sol!

Anyway, I’m going to share an experience that recently happened to someone who presently lives with us. When she first got here, all she ever talked about was her boyfriend who lives in the city (Bacolod). She’s normally talkative and would divulge even her most personal details. I guess she feels comfortable given that she’s my relative.

I was very amused, at first, hearing about all her escapades and sexcapades with this guy. She actually has the reputation for being a flirt in this town and she does admit it, sometimes even proud about it, but hearing her gush about someone ten times in only a minute made me think that she was, in fact, in love with him.

Being in love isn’t bad. The way she told me about him, I thought he could actually be the one for her. She told me he respects her and that he’s the only one who tries to correct her ways… as if he does care.

Until I made her her own Facebook account.

This girl has absolutely no clue how to use the computer, let alone surf the internet! So I only had her sit right beside me while I put up her first-ever personal profile online. It was a pain trying to find her boyfriend given that the name Jefrey L** happens to be one of the most commonest names in the Philippines. With no luck, I made her choose among the list of could-be friends there were. She added some of my son’s friends whom she knew from the cybercafe they both hang out at.

A couple of days later, she informed me that her boyfriend was using an alias. In fact, the name is ‘Alyas P***’. It didn’t take long to find him. There were only a few people that go by that alias and she recognized the profile photo immediately. Of course! It’s her boyfriend!

She was very excited to look him up. We added him first and then browsed through his profile photos and albums. My first impression of him was, he must love himself so much! Most of his photos are only of  him alone and of his car! Ok… so let me add this… he must love his car and himself so much!

I did say it out loud though and even my relative agreed. Suddenly, our gazes fell on the guy’s friend’s lists! Most of his friends were girls, some were good-looking, some weren’t so. Sizing up those photos got me to conclude that he likes women who bares a lot of skin! Then I looked at my relative, who, at the time, was already looking perplexed.

“Relax!” I had said. “These girls may just be his friends….”

“Yeah right,” my relative answered, unsure.

“They can even be his relatives!” I cheerfully added.

Silence…

There was no answer from her. I just saw her bite her lips. I guess she sensed from the way I was acting that I, myself, didn’t even believe what I was trying to convince her with. Honestly? No way can those girls only be his friends! And there weren’t even any relatives of the guy on the list either when my relative told me that her boyfriend’s got a brother who also has his own Facebook account. My conclusion? Her so-called boyfriend may have more than one account: One for his friends only and the other for his families!

The next day, my relative was so stressed out because her boyfriend was demanding that she change her profile information. I guess the data weren’t acceptable on his part given that their profiles were linked through the In a Relationship status connection. According to this guy, what would his family say when they see my relative’s profile information saying that her interest was flirting and that she was on Facebook looking for Marriage, Relationship, Networking and Dating.

It was partly my fault. I made her account even before their relationship status even got upgraded! Naturally, being single means that you should be free to look! When I accepted the link for their relationship, I kind of forgot to change some minor details like such! Fine, it was my fault so shoot me! But wait a minute… what else did he say? “What would his family say?”

Hello? No one from your family is even on your list dumb-ass! My most hated moment was when my relative got several texts from him with messages unbecoming for a gentleman to say to a lady… let alone his girlfriend. He kept threatening to leave her as if leaving her would mean a death sentence to her.

He seemed so sure of himself. He was portraying the image of someone who my relative should really be looking up to. And if there’s someone who needed a good poke at the head is none other than my relative herself! All those not so nice messages should have already enraged her! But no! However, I know why she’s like that though. I actually do understand. She is insecure about her appearance and her attainments that she let men push her over. She gives too much importance on the feeling of being needed by someone. Even though the need is only for flesh. Such a pity. She’s too young. She defended her boyfriend by saying that “he’s really just like that.”

He’s really just like that? Hmp! Well I’ll tell her what he’s really like. Besides Alias P***, her saint of a boyfriend also goes by the other alias ‘jayzari***’ , ‘totoy_mh****’ and God knows how many more. He writes erotic stories in sites like Pinoyliterotica.com and publishes his yahoo messenger and cellphone information just so those horny girls would add him up. He writes mostly stories based on true experiences but he claims that he just changes the names. He puts up the photos of the girls that he’s been with: be it in threesome or not. He has his own site “For Adu**s Also” which he took down after a series of text messages exchange that happened between him and me. He may have taken it down but the contents of the articles are all intact in my hard drive.

He just made up some excuse to his other co-writers that so and so complained about their pictures being posted and that they wanted him to take those down.

So if you happen to be reading this article, because I’m sure you look yourself up most of the times given how much you adore your own self, let me ask you this… what will your family say when they find out that you proclaim to the world wide web how naturally horny you are at all times? How, by using the social media and web, you would like to build your own community of horny people. Why? For future orgy?

You go around and text bravely how my relative has been used by several man before you touched her. Does that hurt anyone? No. What hurts is the fact that you, as a former teacher in a famous institution in Bacolod city and a DJ as well, took advantage of one of your students’ weaknesses in the past. That is UNETHICAL. That is also sexual harassment. And may I remind you, that sexual harassment is no longer a norm, but a crime.